I’m dedicating this post to all the women who came across my life and not
Life starts with sleeping with all the warmth, our sweet mom gives during our 1st day on earth, on the hospital bed. Life progress when our dad lifts us to reach out the moon and catches back when we falls likes raindrop back to his hands. Life teaches ,when we shares a small piece of chocolate with our sister and again fights for the bigger piece..
Mom, dad, sister…the three sided triangle, will be our whole world till we join school. Then our world will change to something else. It starts with 100, stays 50, reduces to 10 and ends with 1.Yes, they are friends. All, most important and very special days, the day we comes out from mom's womb,1st day at school, marriage day, take any important day..tears will accompany you that day for sure. First day at school ,i don't know how many still remembers that day. Whether we remember or not it is a very special day in our lives.
Up to 7th or 8th std everything happens will be same for all. But after that our gang decides what you are. Will start commending on handsome guys. Will easily fall in love and at the same time will study for our old triangle world. When it comes to 10th,a gal proves who she is by studying, studying and studying like anything.
One quarter of a gals life completes there. The next phase probably is not so fair because of carrier deciding pressure, from all the sides. Still we will get time to commend on all guys sitting in front of us in the tuition classes. To wake up early morning go and yawning in some other house is what is known as +2 tuition .This is 1st phase of life any girl could seriously fall in love with someone and find someone more important than herself will probably won’t last more than 2 years.
The next phase which is the very important life is where a gal starts to recognize her own character. Surely whether for boys or girls, college life is too important. Rather than hanging out with friend, to be in love, to get a job and all something special is there. This is here you will find some whom you will give every rights to love, hurt, hug, share, care and all which she may not have given to her parents also.They are our college friends.This is here you will try to learn there is some differences between friends also. There are some with whom you can’t stay away from, there are some whom you just like to sit and crack jokes. They comment on our makeup, will come for shopping, and do pranks over there. I will tell frankly for girls if you want to really know what is independent life, to know how fun it is to walk, enjoy, talk and to be yourself and do whatever you want and to live not to satisfy anyone then you should really study in a women’s college. This is the only place in the whole life of a girl where she decides, she rules and she dominates.
Getting into job is where she starts to learn seriously about life. This is where she starts to learn how to adjust to situations. But she won’t know all the golden phases which passed by will become just memories and the deadline is just near to her one she gets into job. Yes this is where the fear of marriage comes. We can’t stop this as it is also just like another law of nature.
MARRIAGE…..it is always said that marriage is every gals dream. Supposed to be the most important day in every gals life. A beautiful dream which everyone loves to have. Ya it is true up to a certain point in life. When it really comes up to parents searching for a guy who has to take care of her for the rest of her life, it is a different feeling. Every girl may have a second thought that better had a lover instead of marrying a complete stranger.
This is where we will start thinking, to be a guy was better. He grows with his parents, he lives with his parents and he can continue living with his parents the rest of his life. All a girl can do is to pray not to get a hard hearted smoker or drinker. It is hard to leave our house where we started our journey and reached where we are know, it is harder to leave our room which has seen our tears, happiness, heard our own music composition, which has seen our stupid dance, our fashion show, our dreams and all which no one else has never seen before. Above all these things it is much harder to go to a completely different place and live in a completely different house with a stranger and his family members. I must say, you guys are really lucky that you will get a partner without losing anything.
Where our marriage dreams starts to spoil is when some people whom we have never seen comes and starts bargaining for us in front of our world, our parents who are supposed to give all there life to them. This is where we will start wondering our life has the value of 100pounds of gold, latest model cars and acres of lands. The funniest part is even parents won’t be able to know this much valuable life will end up in right hands or not until the next day after marriage.
Finally marriage will be fixed with some guy with good job and our parents think can take care of us better than them, which anyway no one can. The rest of the days will be colorful again with phone calls and sweet messages. And finally the day comes which is the most important, special and at the same time the most difficult and saddest day. The guy will tie a knot which makes us get out of the triangle life where we slept with our mother and played with our father, fought with of sister, it makes us get out of the colorful life where we hanged out with friends, we cried on friends shoulder, we hugged tightly when unexpectedly passing university exams, gets out of the world where we do tons of shopping with our own salary..it gets out of us from everything and makes us completely his.
To my best knowledge, up to this every gals life is almost same. The rest is decided by the family where she goes to, the guy she is married to. Lucky are ones who gets a guy who takes care of her and never give a chance to miss whatever she had. Unlucky are some who has to bare horrible smell of alcohol and cigarette. Whatever god decides for her, she will adjust, whoever is her husband, she will gift him the most precious gift, a new life. She will live for her husband, she will die for her child, she will look after her in-laws, and she will take care of everything whether she gets the best or worst. She is WOMEN, the backbone of every family, who forgets her life and lives for someone who is totally different for her. As a mother, sister, friend, lover, and wife which ever role she plays, only she can complete it with full perfection. PROUD TO BE A WOMEN.
